Before we begin, let me tell you the story of a small boy.
There was a boy, with very little formal education. Whose school announced him as a mentally deficient child and who was partially deaf. But, still, he was the greatest inventor of the 19th century with over 1000 patents. He invented the quadruplex telegraph, phonograph, motion picture, and the most significant of all. The electric bulb.No wonder many of us would be aware of the fact that he was able to design the perfect bulb after 1000 unsuccessful attempts. And that small boy who became such a glorious inventor was non-other than ‘ Thomas Alva Edison’. Still, he said to the world:
I haven’t failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.
Wasn’t the above story very good to read very and listen to? But, when the turn cames to implement the above principles in our life. Do we implement them? No. Imagine if Edison would have given away in a few attempts. The world won’t get the light and path to glory. Wasn’t that a story of a great ‘Resilient’ man?
What resilience is?
Resilience is our ability to adapt and bounce back when things don’t go as planned. It’s simply the power to return to our original form. To overcome our fear and adversity and conquer the path to glory. Like, professionally, a failure at a project, and then again bounce back to a new outline to work on. Emotionally, get cheated. But, still again trusting someone else.
You know, it’s not how tough and adverse the situation is? It’s about how we react in that situation of adversity.
The best people possess a feeling for beauty. The courage to take risks, the discipline to tell you the truth, the capacity for sacrifice. Ironically, their virtues make them vulnerable. They are often wounded, sometimes destroyed.
_ Ernest Hemingway.
The 3C rule.
Every change has some important aspects. So, as our resilience. It’s a 3C rule which is most important for our resilience. You might be wondering,’ What is this 3C rule?’
Let me tell you it’s very simple.3C’s are three essential elements in our journey towards acquiring resilience. 3C’s are Challenge, Confinement, and Control.
Challenge – See, every difficulty that hurdles your path as a new challenge. Accept it and start working towards it. Don’t let difficulties deaden you. Make your difficulties throb your heart faster.
Confinement – Commit to your goals, relationships, and life. You know, to achieve even the smallest thing we need the confinement. So, have thought of the idea that’ How hardcore commitment I would require for my life?
Control – Control the things that you can. Such as practicing self-control. Try to have control of your reactions, feelings, and sometimes desire. For, example your desire to have that dessert in end can ruin your weight loss challenge.
If you will follow the above given 3C rule, you can achieve and accomplish success in your life. Challenge yourself in every quest of life, then commit to that challenge and control reactions and circumstances when adverse conditions knock the door.
Whenever you feel down in life and want to resilience. Here, are the things you can follow to become more resilient.
Change the perspective of analyzing situations.
To change every situation effectively we need to change our perspective. Sometimes, changing the perspective to understand and analyze the whole situation can flip the situation. Maybe sometimes the way we see difficulties obstacles the way to their solution.
Analyze a particular situation in many possible ways. Don’t always think and understand in the way you like it to be. Like seeing a project in perspective of your employees, client, and actual people who will receive the benefit from the project can help you to implement and execute projects effectively.
Create your meaning.
Be sure, when you wake in the morning you should have a solid purpose to conquer the day. Always try to find’ Why?’ for every task. Remember neither you can commit nor you can achieve your long-term goal without a clear sense of purpose. Someone has said it right:
Activity without purpose is the drain of your life. Find a purpose that will add meaning to your life.
Having a purpose is the difference between making a living and making a living.
__Tom This
Adopt healthy thoughts.
The way we think that is our thoughts is the foundation of our life. Our thought-processing affects our decisions and reactions in a huge way. In order to adapt healthy thoughts we need to:
Embrace changes
Flexibility is an inherent part of resilience. Changes give us more awareness and different perspectives to look at situations. You become more open-minded and empathetic in your relationships. Embracing the changes is essential for our overall growth.
Be optimistic.
Interrupt the negative thoughts that are coming your way. Think that every bad thing or situation comes for good. Don’t look at difficulties as paralyzing events rather look at them as opportunities.
Write a journal.
Writing a journal is a really healthy habit to adopt. It makes you more optimistic and open-minded. Pen every single stray that strikes your mind and you will come across every single aspect of your life.
People who have the habit of writing a journal are found to be more resilient compared to others. By journalizing, we can learn from our past mistakes and also, try to not attempt them further. If you want to dive deep into the ocean of journalizing, consider opening the below-given link:
Cultivate great relationships.
Once again, I would say,’ man is a social animal.’ And trust me no one can help you to be more resilient and perseverant than your beloved ones. We human beings have an inherent desire to be close to someone. We are always in search of someone who can understand and care for us.
If you have cultivated some amazing relationships and have a bunch of people who understand and care for you then you will never ever lose the race of life. The way our loved ones help us to get out of a situation is something that one can do for us. So, always try to cultivate great relationships. To cultivate great relations we need to:
- Listen to each other.
- Respect and trust each other.
- Be open without any judgment.
- Make some time for each other.